Relationships Come & Go – But Karma Goes On & On

Relationships Come And  Relationships Go - But Karma Goes On And On - Kate Woods
Relationships Come And Relationships Go – But Karma Goes On And On – Kate Woods


Relationships Come And  Relationships Go………………………
But Karma Goes On And On………………………………………..

Everybody knows that some relationships last and some  don’t!  Just like no one knows where the wheel of Karma stops – no one knows where, and when a relationship will end.  It is comforting to know that even though relationships come and go – Karma goes on and on. That means that even though you may be going through Relationship Withdrawal you can be somewhat comforted that if someone hurt you they have a future appointment with Karma.  That being said, you still have to deal with your Relationship Withdrawal.

photo(331)Relationship Withdrawal

Are you in a relationship, withdrawing from a relationship, or in between relationships?  Relationship Withdrawal when a relationship ends, by choice or not, can be difficult.  It dredges up all sorts of unpleasant emotions.  Many people experience – anger, sadness, loneliness, happiness, relief, frustration, humiliation, agitation, jubilation, and something I call “flabbergastation” … which is being astounded and astonished that your relationship ended. Well, if you painted a picture of all the feelings and emotions involved in a relationship break-up it would probably be a complicated psychedelic mural of many colors.

Tears, and Fears and Mourning

Many people mourn for the end of a relationship in much the same way they mourn for the death of person.  Perhaps that’s because it has similar loss factors. You won’t be seeing or talking to the person like you usually do. You won’t get the responses that you want to hear or any responses at all.  BUT – you also will not have to suffer their discouraging words and controlling behavior traits.  Of course, every relationship is different but many bad relationships have similar traits. There’s usually a giver and a taker  – a relationships  controller and a  relationships enabler.  Generally the Giver is the Enabler and the Taker is the Controller.  Even though one or the other is generally unhappy, these unbalanced relationships often go on for a very long time.  Why? I’m sure there are many different answers, but they can probably all be summed up by the fear of Relationship Withdrawal.

Fear of the Unknown

How many people do you know who continue to be addicted to something or someone negative in their life.  Being addicted to something or someone that you know is harmful to you physically or emotionally or both usually has a common factor involved – Fear of the Unknown.  Here are some examples of things that people say:

  • I know smoking is bad for me but it helps me stay calm. How will I calm myself down if I quit.
  • I know I should stop eating junk food but it’s my comfort food.  What will I replace food with so I’m not always hyper?
  • I know that Jimmy, Joe, or Bob or (substitute an appropriate name here) is not the right person for me to be with but I don’t want to be alone and he/she is better than no one. Who will replace them?
  • I know that Jimmy, Joe, or Bob or (substitute an appropriate name here) is a monster and I should leave him but even though he’s a monster, he’s the monster that I know.  How will I get to meet and know someone else as well that’s a better match for me?

Withdrawing from anything is hard because  the reason a person is addicted to anything or anyone is usually that it fills some kind of an empty space in their life. It gives temporary comfort, or it gives the illusion that all is well in your life for at least that moment in time, even though it really isn’t.  All addictions are generally temporary solutions to permanent problems. They keep you from moving forward to real solutions to finding a happier existence in your own little corner of the world.

Staying addicted to the Monster that you Know because you fear that the unknown may be worse is like looking out the window and longing to go outside but being afraid  of what’s outside. It might rain, or snow, or there might be some other unexpected thing happen that you will have to face if you leave the comfortable place inside at the window.  Well, here’s an important question to ask yourself, even when you hold on to the Monster that you know because you think that it is a predictable scenario – is any Monster really predictable?  You are still living with the possibility of something unexpected happening that changes their behavior which changes the entire situation.

No Sugar Coating

There’s no way to sugar coat the fact that Relationship Withdrawal or any kind of withdrawal hurts.  Broken Hearts and Battered Minds  are painful to experience. But and here’s the big BUT – what hurts more – staying in a bad or unsatisfying relationship – or facing new challenges and possibilities?   You know what you have and where you are – are you happy most of the time?  Or are you sad and/or frustrated most of the time? If you move forward you may not find what you’re looking for so you may still not be happy;  But and here’s another big BUT – you just might find exactly who or what you need to be happy.  It’s a Gamble!  Only you can choose to roll the dice or not.  Unfortunately, sometimes you really have no choice but to move on. When a relationship comes to an end that you didn’t want to end, you will have to deal with Relationship Withdrawal. If you’re in still in a relationship that you think should probably be over,  it is your choice to either prolong the agony, or to move forward armed with anticipation and hope that you will find  what or who  you’re looking for if you acknowledge that you want more than a bad relationship.  Relationships are supposed to enhance your life, not make you feel like you’re alone being controlled by an addiction.

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If you are dealing with Relationship Withdrawal or Withdrawal from any situation or addiction and feel desperate or in need of help you should seek reliable professional counseling. Broken Hearts and Battered Self-Esteem  can feel as debilitating as any other emotional or physical condition.

Thanks for visiting my blog! Until next time have a warm heart but be COOL! Be happy, be well, and be the best you that you can be!

Kate Woods
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Confidence – A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card

Confidence - A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card - Find The Confidence You Need To Soar
Confidence – A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card – Find The Confidence You Need To Soar

Who among us doesn’t want to have the Confidence to excel at everything that we attempt to do? Who among us doesn’t want to have the Confidence to reach within ourselves to find the “Confidence to SOAR” to meet our highest aspirations like a great bird flying high above the ocean without a care in the world?

Confidence is belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance. It is an extremely desirable trait for anyone who has goals that they hope to reach.  Do you have it? Do you want it? Some people think you have to be born confident; but I disagree!  I believe that if you have a goal, and you want to reach it, you have to believe in your ability to attain it.  Start by telling yourself every day that you want to reach that goal; and that you can reach that goal. Just like the Little Engine That Could kept telling himself, “I think I can… I think I can… I think I can” you can first convince yourself to believe in the fact that you can reach one specific goal at a time. 

As you reach the first goal you should suddenly realize that you have created the first layer of confidence within.  Even if you don’t reach every goal afterwards, if you keep accepting challenges you will eventually reach other goals and you will have created a more confident you – with the power to reach within yourself to find the CONFIDENCE TO SOAR!

Very early in my writing career I decided with very little difficulty what I’d use as my tag line because I knew why I wanted to write. I aspired to inspire people to improve and enhance their lives. So, it was logical that my tag line would read “I Aspire To Inspire”. I wanted to make a difference with my writing, whether it was fiction or non-fiction because it was clear that there were many unhappy, confused people in the world who could benefit from a little inspiration.  With that in mind I’ve added a new feature to my blog – Wickedly Wise Inspiration Cards.

I’ll be adding a new card every week and I’d love to send them to you to add a little inspiration to your week.  If the idea of receiving a little inspiration at an unexpected moment sounds good to you sign up for my Karma Buzz Newsletter.  Or check back often if you need a little inspiration.

Kate Woods
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Remember Me Always – On Holidays and Everyday

Remember Me Always - RMA - On Holidays and Everyday - And I Will Remember You Always
Remember Me Always – RMA – On Holidays and Everyday – And I Will Remember You Always

Remember Me is more than a computer term related to your passwords.  Most people want to be thought of by others, and most people want to be remembered while they are here, and after they are no longer here physically. That fact is part of the basis for many of our holiday celebrations. Valentines Day, Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Memorial Day, Independence Day, Labor Day, Veterans Day and of course, our individual Birthdays and Anniversaries. Most people want to be thought of and remembered not just on holidays but everyday; but it’s especially noticeable when a person is overlooked on special holidays. Why do we want others to think of us and remember us? I guess it’s just a comforting thought to know that your presence in the world is important to someone. That what you have done, and what you do and will do, touches other people and their lives and that they will remember you as they move through their daily lives.

On Memorial Day and Veterans Day the most significant thing that a person should do is to remember and pay tribute. When you enjoy your picnic or parade or shop the holiday sales, don’t forget to remember all those people who have given of themselves to make this day possible for you.  Relationships go on after some of the participants are no longer with us, and remembering those significant people and their contributions to our lives is an important building block to who we are and who we are yet to become. Take the time to remember and pay tribute the people who gave you both your roots to stay grounded and your wings to fly to your highest aspirations.

Valentines Day, Mothers Day and Fathers Day are days that we think of special people in our lives, and we hope they will think of us. Memorial Day Veterans Day are days that we think of all the heroes who have served our country.  Independence Day and Labor Day are more specifically about remembering those who stood up for our rights in days gone by, and commemorating them for their hard work of laying the groundwork for ours and future generations.

I always think it is very odd when people comment on the tradition of giving greeting cards as an illogical tradition. Greeting cards, handmade cards, even e-cards are an easy way to say to the recipient, “hey, I’m thinking about you, and I’m remembering now and will remember in the future that you existed and that your presence in the world matters”.

Many of those same people say holidays aren’t special, they’re just another day. I wonder if they could say that as they looked into the eyes of a fallen member of the military, the Grandma who rocked them all night when as a baby they were sick, or their mother or father who ate pasta instead of steak for weeks to pay for a prom gown or a special baseball or softball mitt for them. Would it be so easy to dismiss their importance in your life if you had to look into their eyes while you flippantly ignore their contributions to not only your life but the lives of others? Even people who feel they are alone in the world have impact on others, and the good things they do will impact on the recipients. Never underestimate the value of the kindness of strangers. The soldier who saved your Grandfather’s or your Father’s life in a military battle is remembered when you place a flag on your ancestors resting place.

Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and any day that marks special moments in time are important. They should not be viewed as just another day but as opportunities to honor and remember special people and special times. The cost is small, the time spent is minimal, but the value to the recipient just may be priceless.

When you think of the words Remember Me, don’t just think about them as seen on your computer screen as related to remembering your password to access a site, think of them with their traditional meaning. Traditions and trends and fads recycle themselves just as history has a way of repeating itself. One of those traditions is signing  books, autographs and yes, even greeting cards with these three letters – RMA. Those three letters speak volumes for both the person who writes them and the person who reads them. Don’t forget to remember me – REMEMBER ME ALWAYS! ... AND I WILL REMEMBER YOU!

Thanks for visiting my blog! Until next time have a warm heart but be COOL! Be happy, be well, and be the best you that you can be!

Kate Woods
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Resilience – A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card

Resilience - A  Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card - Be Resilient Like A Hosta and see what happens!
Resilience – A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card – Be Resilient Like A Hosta and see what happens!

Hostas are extremely resilient plants. I’ve planted them in the shade. I’ve planted them in the sun. They thrive in both wet and not so wet weather conditions. I have even seen someone who planted a Hosta plant upside down and it somehow still managed to do a turnaround from a downward direction to an upward direction and grew just as it normally would have grown if planted correctly.  I think that certainly qualifies it as being an extremely resilient plant.

I can’t help but wonder how many people would benefit if they decided to try to be as resilient as a Hosta plant.  How many people would finish their unfinished projects; and run the last lap at the track, lose the last ten pounds they wanted to lose, etc.?  If you have some unfinished projects or unreached goals perhaps you should challenge yourself to “Be Resilient like a Hosta” for awhile.  Take the Hosta Challenge and find out if it’s a concept that leads to successful results for you.

Very early in my writing career I decided with very little difficulty what I’d use as my tag line because I knew why I wanted to write. I aspired to inspire people to improve and enhance their lives. So, it was logical that my tag line would read “I Aspire To Inspire”. I wanted to make a difference with my writing, whether it was fiction or non-fiction because it was clear that there were many unhappy, confused people in the world who could benefit from a little inspiration.  With that in mind I’ve added a new feature to my blog – Wickedly Wise Inspiration Cards.

I’ll be adding a new card every week and I’d love to send them to you to add a little inspiration to your week.  If the idea of receiving a little inspiration at an unexpected moment sounds good to you sign up for my Karma Buzz Newsletter.  Or check back often if you need a little inspiration.

Kate Woods
“I Aspire To Inspire”

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Consequences – A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card

Consequences - A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card
Consequences – A Wickedly Wise Inspiration Card All Behavior Has Consequences – Good & Bad

 CONSEQUENCES  is a big word and it has a big meaning. Many people think that the word CONSEQUENCES only applies to negative results from actions but if you think about it you realize that it applies to all actions. Considerate, kind, caring behavior generally results in similar reactions or results.  While inconsiderate rude, insincere behavior generally results in negative reactions or results. This is not a new concept it’s been stated many ways over time by all types of people.

WHAT YOU DO AND HOW YOU BEHAVE SPEAKS VOLUMES EVEN IF YOU DON’T UTTER ONE SINGLE WORD!

Now consequences don’t always make themselves apparent immediately. Sometimes they arrive over a period of time.  I tend to believe that is when Karma steps in and lends a hand in delivering the appropriate consequences.

So my best Wickedly Wise advise is to always think before acting because “Considerate Behavior Generally  Creates Good Consequences” while “Inconsiderate Behavior Generally Creates Bad Consequences” and actions usually speak louder than words.

WHAT YOU DO AND HOW YOU BEHAVE SPEAKS VOLUMES EVEN IF YOU DON’T UTTER ONE SINGLE WORD!

Very early in my writing career I decided with very little difficulty what I’d use as my tag line because I knew why I wanted to write. I aspired to inspire people to improve and enhance their lives. So, it was logical that my tag line would read “I Aspire To Inspire”. I wanted to make a difference with my writing, whether it was fiction or non-fiction because it was clear that there were many unhappy, confused people in the world who could benefit from a little inspiration.  With that in mind I’ve added a new feature to my blog – Wickedly Wise Inspiration Cards.

I’ll be adding a new card every week and I’d love to send them to you to add a little inspiration to your week.  If the idea of receiving a little inspiration at an unexpected moment sounds good to you sign up for my Karma Buzz Newsletter.  Or check back often if you need a little inspiration.

Kate Woods
“I Aspire To Inspire”

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A Mothers Day Recipe To Share – Its A Keeper

A Perfect Recipe Card For Mothers Day For Emotional Flour Paste Glue - Author, Kate Woods
A Perfect Recipe Card For Mothers Day For Emotional Flour Paste Glue – Author, Kate Woods

A Perfect Recipe for Mothers Day

This recipe is perfect for Mothers Day.  It is a rather unique recipe but one I think you will want to keep once you read it; and for those of you who have never mixed up a bowl of flour paste glue you don’t know what you’re missing.  Being creative and being a Mother go hand in hand, and my Mother was certainly a very creative lady.  Please share this happy little Mothers Day Story  with Mom’s everywhere as a tribute and as a wish for a wonderful Mothers Day!


How To Make Flour Paste Glue

When I was very little and very young and my sister and I were bored,  my very creative mother found a thrifty way to keep us entertained.  One day when my Mother was in the kitchen baking and cooking up a storm, she took a little flour and a little water and mixed them together into a  thick gooey concoction in a bowl and put it in the middle of the kitchen table. Then we got out some paper and crayons and scissors and we created magnificent arts and crafts
projects, all pasted and held together with our flour paste glue. I’ll bet you’re all thinking  that couldn’t work and would like to ask, “Hey, did it work?” Well, actually, yes, it did!

It’s Not Elmer’s Glue but…

Now, I wouldn’t exactly say it worked as well as Elmer’s Glue but it worked well enough to allow us to enjoy making our art projects; and it held them together for a while, a few days, or maybe a week or so. So, it was a short term solution, but just like in life sometimes a short term solution is the only option you have to a problem on any given day, at any given time.

For many years I never gave flour paste glue much thought until one day when I was having a particularly difficult day full of problems and I thought to myself, “I’ll just have to deal with all of this with some short term fixes. I’ll just hold my life together with flour paste glue for awhile until I can find more permanent solutions.” I hadn’t thought about flour paste glue for a very long time before that day, but sometimes ideas just dwell someplace in the recesses of your mind until you need them, and then they just pop up to help you carry-on. Perhaps as a writer I should refer to that concept as creativity, but it’s also a concept of survival. Sometimes, you might feel like flour paste glue is all you have to hold your life together with; but honestly, sometimes that’s just enough.

“Thanks for the Recipe, MOM!”

Recipe Card (Back) For Mothers Day For Emotional Flour Paste Glue - Author, Kate Woods
Recipe Card (Back) For Mothers Day For Emotional Flour Paste Glue – Author, Kate Woods

 

Kate Woods
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