Well, here it comes again – Valentine’s Day! Unlike some other holidays, it is filled with extreme emotions – very high and very low. It is also overloaded with expectations about love, romance, hate and betrayal.
While some people expect to have and do have a traditional Valentine’s Day, many others have what I refer to as “the Other Valentine’s Day.” Unfortunately, liars and cheaters, relationship frauds, and social predators use this day to manipulate and play with the emotions of their victims. Because of the heightened expectations of love and romance, the disappointments delivered by these social misfits are much more exaggerated and painful to those waiting for their dinner partner to arrive, or flowers to be delivered, or candy and gifts to be presented. Plans were made, love was implied, but only disappointment is delivered.
It is said that love conquers all, and I wholeheartedly agree with that statement but only when it is truly reciprocal. So how do you handle the disappointment if you’re the victim of such heartlessness? You protect your heart and your soul and your happiness by seeing the disappointing day as insignificant and by visualizing the heartless person as invisible. Then try to realize this difficult event was never about you and your significance in the world – but about the victimizer and their insignificance in the world and their need to try to elevate their importance any way they possibly can. If you do not allow them to damage your heart and to hurt you – they fail.
It’s impossible to know what makes a heartless person heartless – but it is possible to protect your heart from them.
Try adopting this amazing quote from Gandhi as one of your mantras :
“No one can hurt me without my permission.”
And then go forth and continue to search for love. Maybe you’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places with all the wrong people. Protect your own heart, and soul, and happiness, and always remember that life is not a fictional novel. Keep your expectations reasonable and realistic.
If you’re one of the spoilers of a traditional Valentine’s Day who thinks that it’s fun to be hurtful and heartless on that day or any day, don’t be that, and don’t do that. Karma is alive and well in the universe and “what goes around comes around.”
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